I have found through my own experience and that of my coachees that bold declarations such as the title above do not help in overcoming and/or culling n emotion. In fact contrary to the intention, the said emotion comes back in much more intensity that before once we attempt to deny it.
So, what helps? Definitely not vehemently denying these emotions and ignoring them.
Presence helps. Presence with the emotion and the acknowledgement of its presence helps.
Instead of saying, I am angry, and personifying that emotion, we can simply observe its presence. We can say, ‘Anger has come.’
Segregating from the emotion, not being a part of the chaos, but simply being an observer of the emotion helps to defang it. This practice conveys to our conscious and the subconscious mind that we do not need to be swayed by the emotion that has come over us in the present moment. We can simply view it as an outsider and be in equanimity.
However this approach does not come easily to us especially when we are drenched by fear, happiness, anger, guilt, irritation. The best way to perfect this technique is to practice being an observer of our own life for two to three minutes every day.
Let me know how this practice worked for you, and if you want to learn more connect with me!